After being with my husband for 7 1/2 years he absolutely started making lies up about me to his soon to be divorced 38 year old secretary. They have been friends for 7 1/2 years. I found inappropriate text messages and found out he was going to her apartment. He told me he wanted our marriage to work and I never knew it was in trouble. He left me after three weeks of us fighting for the first time in 7 1/2 years for excuses that were lies that he told her. Find out he is a Narcissist. He is very charming, suave and debonair and had me convinced that he was financially successful and the man of my dreams. He used me and put me in debt with a failing business and when I started questioning him he moved on to a new target as quickly as possible. He told me he wasn’t coming back and he wanted a disollution a.s.a.p. and I caught him sleeping at her house and then he moved in with her and said they were just friends. She now spends the weekends with him. He got $ from my parents for equipment he needed for his business, I signed a lease on the building he was renting and conveniently ever debt went into my name since I had good credit. He still lies about them just being friends and will never tell the truth. Found out this is the fourth marriage she has broken up, but really can’t blame her because he is now being the guy who is going to save her. Her parents have money too and I so wish I could warn them. I couldn’t understand how he lies and has treated me so badly and still sees he has done nothing wrong, but it you read about a Narcissist, you understand that it is always about him and when I look back, it always was. De he never comforted me, he never helped with yard work, I saw him through heart surgery and he wouldn’t even go to my doctor with me. They are incapable of feeling love for anyone but themselves. I guess she deserves what’s coming her way.