My husband is disabled. He suffers from an illness that inhibits his everyday life. He will never work again. This often makes him feel emasculated. Over the past few years, we have had major problems with our teenaged son. It has affected everyday life for us. I became very focused on getting my son the help he needed. My husband felt that I no longer heard him. He started talking to Tracy. She was his first girlfriend. At first, it was only catching up. But as time went on he started talking about our problems with our son. He told her he loved me but no longer felt I was there for him anymore. That I did not hear him. Everything he said I wasn’t giving him she started to give him. I talked to her after finding out. She said he told her I was kind, smart, beautiful, strong. Yet she pushed him to cheat. I asked her why. She still has not answered me. Things progressed. It started with phone calls and dirty texting. Then one weekend I had to go away for our daughter’s competitive sporting event. I knew something was up. He made arrangements for our youngest son to spend the night at his mother’s and told me he was sleeping at his brothers.
In 14 years my husband has never done this. I did not know at the time that he was talking to Tracy and engaging in an affair. But I confronted him about it anyway. He denied this and said I was being paranoid. We had been fighting all week. Saturday was our 14th year anniversary. I called him while on our way and told him I didn’t want to fight. That I loved him and that it was our anniversary and I just wanted to remind him of what he had. He said he loved me too then gave me some bullshit story about his phone not working and needing to shut it off. The next day I got home. He hugged me and said he loved me and that we would talk. The Monday after I was out and got a Facebook message from her daughter asking if I knew where my husband was Saturday night.. She wouldn’t say more than that. I called my brother in law and he ignored me. I called his wife and she said he was at their house and played games all night. I told my husband and the first thing he did was message her to tell her. There was a lot of talk over the week and no truth. Finally, I opened his phone and the GPS I set up the day before I left due to my suspicions. And there it was. He had spent the night with her. On our 14th year anniversary. At a hotel. I went through his phone further and found his phone carried conversation memory. I found out every detail. Through talking to him and her both he couldn’t follow through and sleep with her. The affair was initiated by her.
She wanted him to leave me. He ended it at the hotel. She paid for the room. She set it all up. But she didn’t get it. He told her it was all a mistake and that he loved me and couldn’t do it. But she still left her husband. She moved into her father’s and a few days later asked him to leave me and move in with her. He blocked her after that. I found out later from her husband that after she left my husband that she slept with another man. My brother in law drove him to the hotel and picked him up. His wife covered for him and lied to me. His mother encouraged him to do it. I can never forgive any of them. My husband and I are in therapy. I don’t know if I can get past it but I feel it’s worth a try. I don’t know if I can ever trust him again. I want to destroy Tracy. I hate her. She’s a lying cheating disgusting ****. Her husband won’t take her back and I worry she will try to creep into my life again and manipulate my husband again. I know he is to blame too. But she purposely started giving him what he lacked and talked him into this. I’ve read the messages I talked to her. He played a part but this is mostly on her. I hope she suffers. I hope everyone finds out what she’s done. I hope karma destroys her.
